Relational Frame Theory & Disrupting Sequences of Suffering
Relational Frame Theory (RFT) is the model of cognition that underpins Acceptance and Commitment Therapy — an evidence-based psychotherapy with hundreds of randomised controlled trials behind it. Developed by Professor Steven Hayes, RFT suggests thoughts are like “nodes” that exist in relational networks in our minds. So when you have one thought, not only is […]
How to Choose the Right Projects to Focus On
Many of the significant projects in our life take around 3-5 years to complete. E.g. Writing a book, starting a family, creating a company, learning a new skill/instrument, or completing a degree. When you pair this with the insight that the average lifespan is approx. 80 years, it can provide a wake up call about […]
Finding Clarity on the Camino de Santiago
I’ve just got back from a 6 day trek as part of the Camino de Santiago in Spain. I’ve done this annually for the past three years as a way to reset, reconnect to the bigger picture, and find clarity for the months ahead. What follows are some of the insights I picked up along […]
Surround Yourself With People Where the Outcome You Want is the Average Result
I’ve signed up for an 84km ultra marathon this June. When I mentioned this to friends and family, the responses varied, but most of them were along the lines of: “Are you crazy?” “Is that even possible?” “Are you sure you’ll be able do that?” Before these conversations, the doubts in my mind were like […]
A Simple, Sustainable, & Stress Free Approach to Productivity
There are two basic approaches you can take to productivity: Push or pull. One is life-giving and sustainable. The other is soul destroying and stressful. If you’ve ever experienced burnout or felt you were spreading yourself too thin, it’s likely that you were using a push system — without even being aware of it. — […]
How to Find Clarity on Life’s Big Decisions — Before You Fully Commit
In 2013, I dropped out of university to start my first business. It was an online farmers market which made it easy for people to buy food from local producers in Glasgow. The model was simple. I would build relationships with the farmers, list their products on my website, people would order, and I would […]
Considering Your Ideal Energetic Effect
A couple of days ago, I had a phone call with someone who was extremely worried and in a state of panic. After doing my best to help and resolve the situation, we ended the call. I noticed that I could now feel anxiety in my own body — a kind of residue that had […]
Psy-Links: March 2024
In recent years, I’ve been lucky enough to interview some of the world’s leading thinkers at the intersection of science, consciousness, psychology, and spirituality. People like Iain McGilchrist, Lisa Miller, Bernardo Kastrup, Andrew Newberg, and Donald Hoffman. Gradually, this is starting to change how I see the world. And made me realise that our reality […]
My Most Embarrassing Moment from Childhood — And Why We Need to “Reprogram” Our Minds
When I was seven, the girl I sat beside in school told me she liked me. Next thing I know, I’m crying — and unable to stop. Around this time, my parents were in the habit of teasing my brother and I about girls at the dinner table in the evenings. So, when this girl […]
Evidence that our World is Much More Mysterious Than We Think
A secular culture carries with it many assumptions (that we now take for granted) about the nature of reality. For example: — That there is no ultimate meaning or significance to life — That we are the product of a blind, mechanical, and automatic universe — That we ourselves are insignificant primates (with prefrontal cortexes) […]